3 Stones to a happy home…


Scripture: Ephesians 6:4
Sermon: 3 stones to a happy home… Raise your children with respect without losing them…


Let us open in prayer… Father in heaven lend us your descernment father so that we may truly understand and appreciate the words we receive this day and that we continue to strive for that perfection in life and love for each other! Continue to strengthen us father and in all that we do allow us to walk with you!!! Amen!

Good morning saints!  Let’s talk family… No family is perfect. Each has its own dynamics and turns…praise God:) As we continue to look at the Word of God for HIS advice on how to build a happy and healthy home. We quickly realized a happy and healthy home needs three stones of Support!

The first stone is A SINCERE WALK WITH GOD. He and only He can make a bad home good, a good home great, and a great home better and a better home… THE BEST! 7:) ONLY HE!  The Bible tells us that any sinner can have a personal, meaningful, relationship with God the moment he or she accepts Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord (John 14:5)!!! Have you accepted Christ? If not, then I encourage you to do so today. If so, then you’re ready for the second stone, which is –
A STRONG MARRIAGE(Strong relationship with a significant other). …OK here we go.. God intends for marriage to be an enjoyable, lifelong, relationship between a man and a woman. And ANY marriage can be strong if the woman will submit to her husband’s authority, if the man will submit to his wife’s needs, and if both the man and woman will submit to Christ!!! Yes… That’s what I said 🙂 Submitting goes… Both ways…. HELLO! 🙂

The third Stone for a powerful and happy home is A SOLID PARENT – CHILD relationship. Let’s look at Ephesians 6:1-3, notice the responsibility of the children in regard to the home: they are to HONOR their parents! Right?… That’s right!:) OK stay with me here…

This morning, lets look at verse 4 and notice the responsibility of the parents in regard to the home. This verse tells us how to raise our kids without loosing their respect……hmmmm, OK?… Let’s work this in…

I’m sure you heard the story about a young preacher who preached a sermon entitled, “Ten RULES for Raising Your Kids.” A few years later he and his wife had a couple of kids. And while his kids were in lower elementary school, he changed the title of his sermon to, “Ten PRINCIPLES for Raising Your Kids.” A few years later, when his kids were in the pre-teen years, he changed the title of his sermon to, “Ten SUGGESTIONS for raising your kids. Then, when his kids became teenagers, HE QUIT PREACHING THE SERMON ALL TOGETHER! :)!


Lol… I can lovingly tell you that pieces of that though have come to mind…;), but I’m not going to do that to you!, BUT I do want to share two principles, raised from this verse, that will help you raise your kids without loosing their respect…..and vice versa!!!!  You still with me?…. OK let’s get into it…

I. A Warning to Heed.

Circle the phrase, “Do not exasperate your children . . .” (NIV) The word ‘exasperate’ means “to irritate someone,” “to make someone extremely frustrated, bitter, and angry.” A lot of people are like that today. They’re filled frustration and bitterness. We don’t want our children to turn out that way.

So what are some common ways parents exasperate their children? Let me mention 3 ways. Parents exasperate their children by being . .

If you want to frustrate, embitter, and anger your child, then be negative. Constantly criticize them. Point out their faults and seldom offer praise. It seems like that comes natural for some parents. A little girl says to her dad, “I’m going to be a doctor.” He replies, “You’re not smart enough, you’ll neverhurt make it.” Don’t be that way. Don’t discourage your child’s dreams, if those dreams are worthwhile (ILL: Twila Paris’ Parents – they encouraged her to pursue her dream of being a professional singer).

When you criticize your child, do so constructively. Criticism, when balanced with praise, will help him grow and develop. But criticism, without praise, will make him bitter, frustrated, and angry.


Our society has a lot of negligent parents. Some parents tell their kids, in effect, “Stay out of my way and I’ll stay out of yours;” “Mind your own business and I’ll mind mine.” They treat their children like they are a nuisance and in the way.

Don’t treat your kids like that. Spend time with them. Do things together. Play an important role in their lives and let them know they mean the world to you.


Do you know what the three most important words you can say to your child are? (Not “Here’s your allowance”) “I love you.” 🙂 I’ve been guilty for not seeing it enough….make sure you add this to your meaningful interesting conversations with your children.

II. A Command to Obey.

Look at verse 4, . . . instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord (NIV). This command has two parts. It commands us to . . .

A. TRAIN our children.

Circle the word “train.” It means to prepare someone by laying down rules and regulations and enforcing them with rewards and punishments. In other words, you identify the standards for your children. Then you follow those standards yourself. Then you tell your children, “Follow these standards with us. We’ll reward you when you do, and punish you when you don’t.” this is a strong learned behavioral pattern….. Do as I do… Positive standard reinforcements….you can’t tell your daughters Not to Wear particular skirt yet to see you on Facebook at the club with a skirt even shorter than theirs….or tell your sons not to disrespect their sisters yet you disrespect their mother…..telling your sons to respect women yet your facebook is full of scadelous photos and videos of women whoa…. Etc etc etc…or clean your room yet your room looks like a Desaster area…. I think we all get the picture, the point is to lead by high standard positive reinforcement! Hello! 🙂

So what’s next…..

1. How should I reward my children?
OK… Ready….. Simply by increasing their privileges.

2. How should I punish my children? Lovingly spank them when they are young, and lovingly take away privileges when they are teenagers!

3. When should I begin? When they are VERY young! Remember, you can’t bend a mature oak tree, but you can when it’s a sapling. The same is true for your children. Trust!

4. Whose standards should I use? GODs standards. And He spells them out in the word of God.

B. TEACH our children.

Circle the word “instruction” – which means to teach. Not only are we commanded to train our children according to God’s standards, we are also commanded to teach those standards to our children. God goes into more detail in Deut. 6.

1. (Deut. 6:6) . . . In other words, make sure the Word of God is a part of your life before you try to make it a part of theirs. You’re being hypocritical if you try to teach your kids to live by the good book while you’re not living by it. Let it change you for the better. Let your kids take notice, and they’ll want it to change them too.

2. (Deut. 6:7) . . . In other words teaching the Bible should be a part of your daily life. An informal setting is the best way for kids to learn the Word of God. Let them see the Bible at work in Mom and Dad from sun up to sun down – and they’ll learn. (ILL: Think about Jesus. He is the master teacher. When did he teach His disciples? All the time) That’s how you should teach your child – when you get up, when you lie down, when you go out, and when you come in. Your best teaching isn’t in the form of lecture, or the way grandma did it, or the way my auntie did it, It’s simply in the way you live…. Roger that?

So family friends loved ones parents, Don’t exasperate your children, instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord example. And what about you? If you’re raising kids, then would you make a commitment – right now – to put this verse into practice?

Understanding that perfection of character is not of this world yet seek to live by the truth and principles of high standard positive reinforcement….God’s rules of engagement!! Each 1 teach 1 how to live, love and respect each other!!!

Have an absolutely powerful day!!!  Remember it’s OK to make mistakes and say…. Im sorry! 

Powerful you are when walking with the Lord!  Believe it!

Rev. Gerald F. Poe Jr.
Gospel Commando 🙂


Cc: Rev. D. Brewer
Bishop Anibal Marcera


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