Silence in the face of suffering

When we are called or here of someone who’s heart has been broken or is in pain and are suffering of the mind, body or soul…

What do we say….what do we do…?

Let’s look at it briefly…..

Here are a few strong suggestions…

– Be silent in the face of suffering.
Sometimes, silence is the best response we can have.

I’ll never forget a hospital visit from an uncle after my mother passed. .. As I was pacing around the waiting room, he showed up and gave me a big hug. He then stood next to me and didn’t say a word. It meant the world to me. Simply stating later AFTER I had time to grieve…I am here and we are family. .

– Simpler is better…

– Give your time, be there, be silent…

– No cliches…I know how you feeling, it to shall pass…God wouldnt give you more than you could bare, I’ve been there…etc etc..

– We could summarize these caregiver guidelines this way: Show up and shut up.

– Don’t stay away, and when you come, silence may be better than speech.

– Incidentally, if you can’t visit, a phone call, email, text, a note on Facebook or a card in the mail is the next best thing. 

– A small prayer at most…- example: Father, we ask now for your wisdom, love and everlasting strength to bring peace and understanding to our troubled minds and souls…be with us father…Amen

H. Nouwen, in his book Out of Solitude, writes: “When we honestly ask ourselves which persons in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand.” 

We may have some insight, but we don’t have all the answers.  

These are just a few suggestions should you be faced with spiritual care giving, remember how it felt in your rain and just being there may mean all the difference in the world to easing some one else’s pain.

God be with you…

Rev. Poe

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A Direct Action Motivational and Missions Based Ministry serving God's people where so ever dispersed!! Rev. Gerald F. Poe Jr.

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